Dear all, I would like to share about my confinement lady and pls avoid her at all cost as I believe that confinement is very important and you wouldn't want a lousy confinement lady. I'm writing these as I'm motivated by many to share my experience so that this cl cant go around harming people.
To all daddies, pls take note that many cl are very scheming. They will go on auto mode and so everything they are supposed to do only when you are around or act like they really care about your wife. But when you are off to work, u wont know what terrible thing they tell your wife. Please take note of point 5, 6 and 7. Sometimes it is not the cl that cause wives to have post natal depression, but rather is the lack of trust from husband. If your wife told u her cl is bad, believe her and change it.
1) she only cook 2 meal a day, lunch is mee hoon soup with salmon and veg all inside the soup. Dinner is just steam cot fish ( which she know is tasteless as there is no sauce at all, she ask me to eat with soy sauce), veg and same soup as lunch. When asked to change menu, she told me confinement food is like that. And I literally eat the same food everyday! She requested my husband to get her lunch so she eat different food while I eat the same everyday. Breakfast is bread and whenever I'm hungry she asked me to eat bread. She finished the mark and spencer cookies that my husband bought for me and told me bread is expiring so I should eat bread. Breastfeeding mum pls take note that you will be constantly hungry. Good cl should feed u 5 meals breakfast, lunch, tea break, dinner and supper. I do not expect 5 meals but I dont expect to have only 2 meals too. Even she herself is hungry at 4 pm plus snd help herself with cookies.
2) she prepared my herbal bath at wee hours such at 3am in the morning when she cant sleep after bottle feeding my bb. This defeat the purpose of preventing wind from entering your body.i only bathe at around 1pm.
3) she only wash my bb bath handkerchief once a week. It was discovered by my husband when he smelled something bad in the common toilet and see that it came from my bb bath handkerchief and question my cl about it .
4) she use the same handkerchief to wipe my bb mouth after feed and burped her. After that she did not wipe my bb face, just rinse the handkerchief with water, not even wash with soap , hang it to dry and reuse it again. This resulted in fungus infection, which is hard and tough, on my bb face. Pls ensure that your cl wipe your bb face after every feed.
5) she keep gossiping and telling me how nice her previous bosses are, giving her pre loved prada wallet, new clothes that they recieved from hamper as gift and etc. Making me super uncomfortable, as if telling me that I have to give her something.
6) she keep asking me why I never go out? She said i very guai, all her client honour during confinement.later on she said that she always get frozen stuff from Singapore for her granddaughter, only then I realise she wanted to go shopping for stuff. When my mum question why she nv bring rice wine for me, she said she was busy and no time to buy but she had time to go shopping and buy frozen pyjamas for her granddaughter in Singapore when she should be doing confinement.
7) acting nice infront of my husband. Telling my husband that I sleep alot which is good. But when he is not at home, she keep questioning why I stay at home. Asking my husband to ask me drink bird nest as I have plenty at home, she chose to gossip instead of telling me to drink birdnwst when she sees me 24/7. My husband did not believe that she is bad until he discover the bath handkerchief himself and start to observe the daily routine.
😎 put my bb flat on her back immediately after feed and leave my bb unattended when she has hip hiccup dur to indigestion. I have told her PD asked us to carry the bb for a whole after meal to prevent indigestion and she ignored. My bb is fuss free, eat and sleep no need people to coax too.
9) prior to her reaching Singapore, we asked about what herbs to buy. We do not have any budget as we believe health is most important. She told me I can only eat herbs after 12 days as I cscet. After 12 days I ask her what herbs to buy, she told me to just ask medical hall to pack for me and she dont know as none of her client eat Chinese herbs ( when she been working as cl for 17 years)! When my in law asked her about sheng hua soup, she said that soup is drink a few days after delievery, she is unsure if I can drink now.
She claimed that she doesn't know chinese herb but know that I cant drink sheng hua soup anymore. Isn't it ironic ? She know her stuff but refuse to share as the more she share the more work she has to do. Simply lazy.
10) she does not do any house work except for laundry. She dont hand wash baby clothes too. I have a clothes dryer at home so she need not hang clothes. She is very free but refuse to cook more or change varieties.
In conclusion, her schedule is 8am plus wake up shake leg drink coffee till 11am cook super simple lunch for me then 1pm pkus sleep till 4.30pm wake up watch tv till 5.30pm cook simple dinner. Wash and bathe done everything at 7.30pm and watch tv all the way till 10pm