Hi parents, we just finished our confinement in 2024, and finally have some time to highlight and warn future parents when engaging Nannies and especially to avoid this one. We slept on this, but could not resist warning others as it really affected us.
Name -Tan Suan Ai, Aiko, Ai Jie.
Transport
- demands transport to and fro from her destination and locations are dodgy such as sleazy hotels in town
Food/Cooking
- demands ingredients to be bought before her arrival and refuses to go and buy with husband due to old age and weak legs, rather not trouble her and 'rest' at home
- demands ingredients as she only has a fixed list of cooking dishes hence unable to improvise, bought wrong mushrooms and has been deemed useless hence not cooking.
- overbuys and undercooks, our grocery bills came up to $800 in the first two weeks due to her unruly ingredients and even scolds the husband for missing out on the ingredient.
- cooks extremely badly, while praising herself to be nicer than any other nanny in the world, cooks the same vegetable taste and style for 28 days, blames the sauce for not being premium enough
- cooks exclusively for her own wellbeing, not the mother, instead of portioning out and managing the protein, she cooks 2 whole fish for 3 pax, exclaiming 1 fish is not enough for 3 pax hence cook more and eats 1/3 of it.
- when asked about the menu, she just shrugs us off and says "just eat what I cook, you won't regret"??????? utterly confused.
- cooks for her own delight, demanded prawns and when questioned as wife cannot eat seafood, she said she misses her hometown and is craving prawns?? bought $10 of it and she gobbled them down in 2 days by adding it to her soups personally/exclusively.
- cooks atrocious breakfast by mixing everything she sees, roti prata with corn and sausage and tomato sauce to make it a pizza? Chicken teriyaki sauce with Chee Cheong Fan??? She fries whole meal bread with oil saying it's nicer that way.
- demands easy breakfast items to make her life easy, such as steam friendly food and complains when it is not premium enough or not there and cooks rubbish for breakfast
- demands not to cook when we go to the doctors as there is not enough time, fair, but demands special takeaway food from the coffee shop, stating that she doesn't eat noodles and must be roasted duck instead of marinated duck. Demands for prawn noodle again because she misses her hometown food.
- demands for good fruits, calming it is for the mother, but snacking away in the afternoon on cherries, blueberries and mangoes.
- cooks with no caution or care, brand new house for us and there is turmeric sauce all over the wall and simply acts blur when questioned or discovered by us, claiming that it is no big deal and can be wiped away easily.
- Nanny demands confinement products from Hock Hua Tonic ONLY, had to re-buy on the first day after coming back from the hospital, only to find out she wants the easy way out as they are pre-packed and easier to cook for mother and extra for herself.
- Nanny drinks the confinement soup from Hock Hua Tonic daily with my mother, eating all the leftovers and adding pork rib into them daily for her own consumption. I bought 3kg of Pork Ribs because she demanded it. To my knowledge, the soup itself is one portion and meant for mothers only but she adds ingredients every day and drinks it happily.
- Nanny cooks different food for us and herself, often taking expensive items and adding them into her own dish, black fungus, prawn, and meat and hiding it at the corner and 'eat later' to be less obvious.
Personal Hygiene / Matters
- Uses the washing machine at her delight, half load, full load, washing her clothes that she bought online and delivered to our house. Utilizes all the equipment to her advantage, locks the door and hides in the toilet for hours. Never once cleaned the toilet, had to pick up her hair from the drain as she simply turned a blind eye and left all her toiletries around.
- Talks on the phone daily without fail, till late at night and says she hardly got any sleep.
- Ons aircon every day, 2pm - 5pm, 9pm - 8am, saying it is very hot and stuffy and baby needs it.
- Watches iPad in the living room in the afternoon while snacking on our snacks and blasting the volume as loud as my computer, drinks all our tea saying she loves tea.
- Not asking permission to take more items from the storeroom, while we are not around, goes in and takes items for her own usage, no notification or courtesy to inform us. Throws away 3 of our sponges as she thinks they are worn out, but no notification.
- Demands for a bed, pillow and charging point, lots of fluff to say no need on things, but sprawls her belonging all over the room, treating it like a hotel, even having to wash the bedsheets for her.
Duties/Responsibilities
- 28 days - no instances of mopping the floor, only wants to use magic mop and mops the kitchen lazily, relying on our Dyson and robot vacuum to do the rest.
- Uses the washing machine twice daily, washing some of her shoppee buys... my electricity bill went up 10x, water bill went up 4x.
- Vacuums her room daily and not even the house more than thrice in 28 days.
- Washes minimally, when friends and family are over, pretends to go and bathe as the right time to avoid washing for them and jokes about caring for the mother only and not the family members.
- Sneers at us when our friends are coming over saying "Come again?" "How many?" not sure if i am the owner or her.
- Constantly asking for treats and good food, citing "Leave me some good stuff" when my friends bring muffins, durian and pastries, automatically assuming she can get some as her afternoon snack.
- Loves to pretend to ask the mother to breastfeed and goes back into the room and closes the door and on aircon.
- Unable to throw rubbish as not able to decipher digital lock, hence i have to throw the rubbish every day, during lunch and dinner, happily leaves it there and goes into her room to rest.
- Demands baby items of specific brand, citing that the others are not 'strong' when questioned on how she came about this she sneers and says "You won't listen to me anyways" and just shrugs along and is upset there are not premium items for her convenience.
- Exclaims that all problems of the baby are ok and not to be worried about, belittling the parent's concern and exclaims that she can be a doctor also whenever we visit them as they say the same things as her but obviously with some data and recommendations.
- Diaper bin - throws all her personal rubbish into the diaper bin, makes it 1.5x faster to be filled. Hence making it a hassle for me as those are curated plastics bags meant for diapers but properly misused.
- Speaks gibberish Chinese to the baby, saying things like 'why make a fuss' 'why so noisy' 'take it easy?' in a very uneducated way, with no value add at all to his life, and also annoyingly annoying,..
- Absolutely obnoxious and negative, telling the mother that she is slow and does not know how to do certain things, giving doctor advice day in day out, not eating chicken in the first week? Went to our Gynae and de-bunked it big time, but still to no avail on her, citing she knows better about open wounds and surgery, but can't event speak English.
- True stubborn to the bone, with no intentions to learn, adapt and improve herself for future mothers, give remarks that she gets paid more with other mothers and her opportunities are everlasting, trying to belittle our house and items as we are not big eaters hence, we do not want anything fancy.
Lastly, if you have scrolled through quickly to read the final thoughts, I'm glad you've stayed because here comes the Gaus. My digital doorbell caught it nice and clear with audio.
She has an external affair in Singapore, often on the phone, and this time he delivers food to our house while we are NOT AT HOME with LO alone as we had to run some urgent errands for 1 hour. Knowing that we would be gone for 1.15 hours she made the call quickly in the morning and her 'partner' came to deliver food and had some hand holding + giggles at my gate. Quickly she ate sneakily, not knowing that my doorbell camera was also recording and she threw away the evidence quickly so that we would not question it. Integrity and respect are non-existent for her, she has a proper family in Malaysia with 3 kids and husband but has affair(s) in Singapore (which concludes why her pickup point in Singapore was at a sleazy but not cheap Orchard Hotel).
End of the day, she is not here to earn an honest living, neither is she here to take good care of infant babies, she is here to stay rent free, eat delicious seafood and take advantage of all our commodities while earning and exorbitant amount as compared to her days in JB. Her intentions when conversing on the phone with future prospect are always condescending, devious and not sincere, it's all about money, staying rent free, getting good rooms, places to stay and often swapping with friends to get a better priced deal (witness first-hand).
Do PM me if you have any questions!