I din engaged confinement lady for my 1st 2 child. Frens encouraged me to get one to recuperate and I did. Now full of regrets. at one point worrying I might end up post-natal blues after her stay with me. My husband said I was too sensitive. U be the judge.
1) My babies jaundice are unusually high and takes 2-3 mths to recover.. But she tell me this several times a day: [FONT=宋]你的[/FONT]baby[FONT=宋]会死，[/FONT][FONT=宋]你知不知道！[/FONT]
2) My baby vomited milk. She insisted we bring bb see doc. But dint at 1st. To us, normal if it happened once in a while due to air in stomach. She flared up and no choice we brought bb to see doc. Doc laughed at us and said it was due to overfeeding. When I rely the message, she scolded the doc for being stupid and tell me: “[FONT=宋]你的[/FONT]baby [FONT=宋]啃死，[/FONT][FONT=宋]你不要来找我！[/FONT]After the visit to doc, I started monitoring. she gave my baby 4*120ml milk over 6 hours!!!!
3) My younger son is very close to the maid. When maid went on Xmas leave, son cried for her. She gets irritated and complained to me that son very noisy. I ignored her. At the end, she went to my 2 yr old son and told him at his face: [FONT=宋]你没有你[/FONT]auntie[FONT=宋]，你是不是会死？[/FONT]
4) Younger son caught a viral infection and has no appetite. So when he asked for pocky, I gave him. She told him: [FONT=宋]你在找死啊！生病还吃[/FONT]pocky!! Luckily my son does not understand Mandarin.
5) ask me to express out foremilk and give only hindmilk.
6) She wants me to eat early lunch and dinner. There was once she even asked me to take dinner at 4.30pm. I told her too early. I will eat at 5.30pm. She raised her voice and said[FONT=宋]：你每次浪费我时间！！[/FONT] IF she is not the same age as my mother, I would have told her: [FONT=宋]你甘催叫我三点吃晚餐！[/FONT]
7) I wakes up at 8/9am, considering I still wake up to breastfeed. She said : [FONT=宋]你非常懒惰。睡到这样晚！[/FONT]”Is 8/9am late? Pissed…
8) She set the temperature of the washing machine to 90 degress...the washing machine cannot take the heat and “exploded”. When I removed the clothes from the washing machine, I found a FLOOR RUG inside, together with the baby clothes.
9) My maid does not have a handphone and her frens are calling the house directly. She kept askng me to get maid to buy her own hp.
10) My maid went out for Xmas leave and came back at around 6pm. She hardly went on leave so I did not give her a curfew. But CL was so unhappy that she returned late and keeping asking what time she is coming home and why I do not know. She nagged at me the entire afternoon….. feel like sewing up her mouth
11) She can scold at everything. Sometimes my brother will send the tonics which my mum bought for me on his way to work. She scolded my husband for being lazy cos he did not went to pick up himself. Why must my husband need to take the trouble to drive 1 hr (to & fro) when my brother’s office is just 5 mins drive away.
12) I was running a fever & had rash on my 2nd week of confinement and went to see doc. She scolded me for going out during confinement. Is she going to be responsible if anything happens to me?
13) She always holds the bottle by its teat with her hand. When I told her off, she said her hands are clean.
14) She used the money which I gave her for marketing to buy utensils tt she preferred. end up my hse got so many extra utensils at the end of confinement.
15) My kids do not like to eat the food she cooked. They are used to plain diet. She kept scolding them stupid in front of them.
The CL is called Xiao Li, mid 50s. Mobile: 97372***. A Singaporean married Malaysian, stayed in Choa Chu Kang area.
My other regret is I recomended her to one of my frens whose confinement was 3 mths b4 mine. When I asked fren abt CL's performance, then i realised tt she broke down several times during her confinement bcos of her. I am so guilty towards her as tt was her 1st bb and she does not have much family support. Yet I have indirectly brought her so much stress.
