Probably is. I will share my experienced.
6 star Nanny Siew Lian from Confinement Angels
This nanny caused me a lot of distress and I think some points are quite serious.
Here it is -
1. Very negative. Gossips about previous employers everyday. If she worked for you before, you’re probably part of her stories. Probably shared your photos too.
Speak badly about other people including my helper and postnatal masseuse whom both she only saw once, commented about me don’t have much breastmilk after massage which made me quite depressed.
2. Ask my husband to buy a lot of ingredients everyday. Within that 2 weeks, we spent $1k plus just on groceries. Most days only me eating. Hubby only eat dinner sometimes. Why there’s always not enough ingredients or food? Beats me. Food taste so so and have hair in it multiple times. Told her there’s hair she just took it and throw on the floor, another time she said the hair must be when buying not cooking (hair was stuck inside the cooked food). Always push the blame to other people. Talking about food all the time, focus not on baby. When I was talking to my husband or watching show she kept interrupting and telling us about food. Stays in kitchen most of the time. Said she doesn’t use phone during work but end up use so often she even brought charger to kitchen to charge and use. After cooking she just sits in kitchen and use phone. I have to take care of baby most of the time. Don’t know why I even need to hire this nanny.
3. Baby cries a lot with nanny, she doesn’t know how to handle. End up my I didn’t get much rest because every morning she’ll pass baby to me and say baby looking for me. Sometimes haven’t even wash up she already push baby to me. Because my baby keep crying when with nanny, I was worried and just take over. Once take over, baby slept soundly within minutes. When pumping milk she kept rushing me and ask if milk is ready when there’s milk in fridge because she says give “fresh ones”. Then what for pump and keep milk in fridge?? Making me was so stressed rushing all the time.
4. When my baby cries, she only deduce it’s because hungry or diaper dirty. I found out that my baby was very hot whole head sweating / my baby was left alone with the balcony door wide open and so cold kept sneezing / baby nose stuck couldn’t breathe properly / stomach very bloated due to over feeding. Again, focus not on baby, not attentive. Yet this nanny complain that my baby is stubborn and bad tempered because she cry and fuss. Excuse me, if you can’t handle it and only want babies who don’t cry then don’t be a nanny!
5. Does not listen to feedback and talk back all the time. Told her to follow certain timing and amount to feed as advised by doctor but she does it her own way and says very difficult to follow doctor and she has more experience than doctor. It could be more than 4 hours and she hasn’t fed my baby or she could feed in an hour time saying baby pooped and very hungry. Sure, as if baby don’t poop all the time. So ridiculous.
6. Spoiled stove hood and fan within that 2 weeks. Was slamming the fridge door whenever she closes it until I told her not to.
7. Said she doesn’t use dryer but end up use the washing machine and dryer more than me. Asked me to remove the clothes in the dryer because she needs to use. We are the owner, we should be using our house items the way we want.
8. Dozed off while carrying baby. When I saw and asked her to wake up, she defended that she “养神” (conserving energy). Pls do not “养神” when holding baby! I am so angry hearing this!
9.Switched on fire to cook and went back to rest on bed. I told her not to do it because it’s so dangerous. She claims she’s only lying down a while and will check the fire. What if she falls into deep sleep??
10. The day she was terminated she said lucky because she’s also stressed with the feeding of 3 hours (again, families who follow doctor advise is difficult for her) and that she may hurt baby accidentally when she’s stressed. She said she old already never mind but baby still small. When asked what she meant she replied don’t talk about things that haven’t happened. This is the absolute worst nightmare for parents when a nanny has such thoughts!!! I can’t believe it!! She should have been chased out of the house immediately. She also mention that “based on MOM law” we still have pay her a full month of confinement fees even if we terminate her earlier. Of course I hubby know this is not true.
There are more points but the above are the main few. I still give her $100+ angbao when leaving but I think it’s so ridiculous that I should help warn other parents. Some points are really dangerous!
